If you don’t want to be seen—and eventually exposed—as a deeply toxic person with pronounced narcissistic traits, then don’t act in ways that confirm exactly that. You can’t demand respect while engaging in controlling, manipulative, or demeaning behavior, especially toward your own son who already carries life-long trauma from narcissistic parenting. If you disregard his boundaries, privacy, and use defamatory spin, then don’t be surprised when the real facts bury your contextual distortions.
Core Traits of a Good Mother: What Should Have Been But Mostly Wasn’t
Core traits of a good mother
Emotional Availability: She is attuned to her child’s emotional needs and provides comfort, validation, and a safe space for expression.
Consistency: She maintains predictable routines and responses, offering security and stability.
Empathy: She actively understands and shares in her child’s emotional experience without judgment.
Boundaries with Warmth: She sets clear, age-appropriate limits while remaining nurturing and supportive.
Encouragement of Autonomy: She supports her child’s independence, allowing exploration, choice, and personal growth.
Responsibility and Presence: She takes her parenting role seriously and remains actively engaged in the child’s development.
Non-defensiveness: She reflects on her actions, takes accountability, and is open to learning or repair when necessary.
Respect for the Child as an Individual: She sees the child as a unique person, not as an extension of herself, and honors their preferences and perspectives.
Protectiveness Without Control: She safeguards the child’s well-being without smothering or overstepping their developmental needs.
Unconditional Support: Her love and care are not dependent on performance, compliance, or emotional caretaking.
